Pursuit is beautiful. I once had an entire blog called Pursuit and I often paralleled the relationship between us and God and man in relationships.

God pursued us while we were still in sin. He continues to pursue us in relationship when we turn our backs on Him in sin or rebellion. We may think we are pursuing God but in reality He is constantly in hot pursuit of us. Knowing that should only cause you to want to get to know Him more and delve deeper in your understanding of this wildly loving God and Father.

In relation to that, humans pursue each other in relationship. I know I pursue relationships with friends and mentors I want in my life.

In its own category though, is pursuit of a romantic variety. I think in the beginning it can look very casual and be very nerve wracking. This pursuit is not in the Bible per-se. We have verses like, “He who finds a wife, finds a good thing.” Prov. 18:22 And, “an excellent wife? Who can find? For she is far more valuable than rubies.” Proverbs 31:10 *emphasis on the man finding the wife.

We can also look at how men are wired naturally versus women. In my personal opinion, a woman can make herself known but a man is the one to lead the relationship and also the one to make the relationship official. He is also the one to make the official proposal (hence the man dropping to one knee). If a man is to eventually be head of household, then he should be the official pursuer. This is my opinion from various Bible verses as well as linking together how a household is to biblically operate and may be what God has directly spoken to me.

Pursuit is, in my opinion, something that happens throughout the duration of the relationship. I say my opinion because I have no Bible verse to back it up but in all of my relationships there is a constant pursuing of friendship, ie. texting, phone calls, checking in and hang outs etc. Otherwise those relationships die away.

In marriage, you may live together but if you aren’t pursuing one another and being intentional then it will also start die away. That’s why a lot of marriage counselors recommend scheduling date nights for married couples.
Pursuit is an ongoing thing even in our relationship with our Father. We keep seeking Him and He keeps revealing Himself.

“You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”
‭‭Jeremiah‬ ‭29:13‬ ‭NIV‬‬

There is little in the Bible pertaining to romanticism especially in the beginning stages of a relationship. There are a lot of rules given etc. about honoring, submitting, how our bodies are not own in marriage but not a ton of romanticism until I found this gold nugget verse:

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her..” Ephesians 5:25

This! This is the verse that connects the marriage to the way God loves His church (us) and that is romantic! God knows us intimately, all of our faults, failures (present and future) and He calls us in closer. He calls us by a new name and His love was poured out for us on the cross as He loved us unto His own death.

Pursuit is, therefore, a reflection of our relationship with God. Are you pursuing your friends well? Your spouse well? Your relationships? Mentors well? It may be a deeper link to how healthy your relationship is to God your Father.

Our relationships with others will always be a reflection of our vertical relationship with God.

House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14

Finding a significant other is a gift from God. As with all things we receive from God by faith, we make the steps of faith and God provides. Be encouraged friends, it’s not all on you to figure it out, just be obedient to do what God is leading you to and He will bless you above and beyond all you ever thought you needed.

“Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭3:20‬ ‭NIV‬‬